When a customer at a Mexican restaurant lashed out at a server, she didn’t expect to lose her job over it. A look at how anti-immigrant rhetoric shapes behavior and how communities are pushing back.
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Why is it the business of some outsider if this woman is a jerk, even a racist jerk? A lot of people seem to be taking an approach to this kind of thing that reminds me more of Carrie Nation than Martin Luther King. There have been so many instances of people's lives being ruined (worse than this) over inappropriate comments. Why be so enthusiastic to put a Scarlet "R" (for racism) on someone like this? Maybe she was just having a bad day.
This kind of "avenging angel" attitude, IMO, has something to do with why Trump is back in the White House, an outcome which I do not support any more than you probably do.
This DOES NOT MEAN that I support this comment. I just think it would have been more appropriate for her to have apologized directly to the waiter. Despite what you and others may think, this is the only person who was directly affected by this. And I know you're going to say that this intense shaming might bring such an apology about. But, respectfully, I feel that the punishment does not fit the crime here.
Well said. Although it’s far down the list of the horrible things Trump has done, I don’t think it’s discussed enough how much more unpleasant he’s made normal social life. The temperature is turned up so high that ordinary disagreements get turned into a life-changing, relationship-destroying battle between good and evil. Probably everyone knows someone whose family no longer goes to the same house on Thanksgiving as they did before Trump because of some stupid political argument.
Anyways, I had my first date with my fiancee at Cazuela’s! Best thing on the menu there is the carnitas platter, which comes with a stuffed bacon wrapped jalapeño.
I disagree that this is down the list. This kind of hatred and division is at the very core of how the GOP has gained so much power. Turn everyone on everyone else. Pour oil on the fires, create a society of fear and hatred of their neighbors. Make Americans forget what was always our nation's strongest attribute - our diversity. Our melting pot. The welcoming of immigrants to make us stronger. After all, 99%+ of us are either immigrants or defended from immigrants. They have always brought in a drive to do better, improve their lives, and give something back to the nation that gave them that chance. Well, mostly. There are always outliers like Musk.
We are strongest when we help each other. Work together. Which, despite the right claiming to be Christians, is the heart of what Jesus taught! He fed those who needed food, healed strangers. And would be called a flaming communist for it now.
Of course, even that word has lost its true meaning, it really means dictatorship now because of how the USSR, Cuba, and Red China stole the meaning of the term for their totalitarian regimes.
It really is a pretty terrible and important (in terms of his agenda’s success) to my mind. Sowing chaos and ill will rampantly is, it seems, part of the plan. And it’s a hard one to try and remedy because the stakes are so high. Sigh.
"Stephanie is paying (literally) for the consequences of anti-immigrant rhetoric actively encouraged from the highest offices in our country. "
While I'm sorry Stephanie lost her job, maybe it's for the best. Columbus doesn't need racists representing it when showing newcomers homes or other properties. Stephanie reflects poorly on the community, on Columbus as a whole. Not good for business. She needed to learn a lesson in order to show others that racism/bigotry is always wrong and that we need to treat each other with kindness. Learning opportunities are often painful, so let's hope her example teaches others not to follow her behavior.
He didn’t “make her a racist”, she already was one but he has emboldened that sad sector of society who think those views are ok to be outspoken about them. She showed a frankly obscene disregard for someone based on her own warped views of her own race as somehow superior. Unfortunately the current leader of your country tells people daily by his words and actions that it is ok to hold those views and therefore to publicly humiliate others by them. He isn’t making racists but he is unfortunately unearthing them from their hovels to spout their hatred to the world. I fear for the future of all decent American people who don’t have that venom in their souls.
No sympathy for bigots. No one held a gun to her head. She wrote that awful note of her own volition and she’s crying crocodile tears. The problem with people like her is that they don’t think they’ll ever suffer consequences which is typical bullying behavior. The guy she picked on got back up, and now she’s backing down. She’s a coward.
Excellent piece, right on point. I wonder how long before stephanie doing the rounds on MAGA media outlets as another aggrieved martyr penalised for speaking her - if you’ll excuse the expression- mind.
“None of this is helped by our current administration. Trump’s bombastic rhetoric sadly deludes his supporters into believing that they belong to an historical shift in popular consciousness, one that authorizes them to act as deputized ambassadors for their leader in everyday situations.” Perfect distillation of the current moment
Trump is a desease of the mind. Beyond the physical harm he is doing to our country he has wormed his way into our minds and removed all joy, and destroyed our sense of community.
You are so right. Pre Trump it didn’t really matter to us what your political persuasion was but now, when you meet someone you have to look for hints and clues before engaging. It’s sick.
Stephanie Lovins, a real estate agent in Columbus, was dismissed after writing an offensive message on a restaurant receipt. She tried to deny it and continued to deny it even ater security footage was. Major Karen piece of white trash.
Yeah, but my friend Karen is a great human being!! Sad that is used to describe someone like Stephanie ( and I’m sure the other Stephanie members don’t like it either! )
Yeah, I cringe that my name John is referenced in US street culture as both a purchaser of sex and a toilet bowl. But I don't lose my mind over it. That ship sailed long long ago.
Austin, that is a tremendous story and outcome. Guessing Stephanie tried calling her credit card company saying her card was stolen to keep from paying the tab. I bet, if she has any brains at all, she will be moving or already has. The stink will follow her for awhile regardless. Thanks for writing this piece.
Karma is a real thing ! I hope Stephanie learns from her hatred and bigotry but I know these trumpers and she hasn’t. She just hates that she was caught
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Good for you. My motto: "Block the creeps." They don't deserve to take part in civil conversations.
Absolutely! No one is owed our time or energy, especially not those who engage in bad faith. Blocking is self-care.
Why is it the business of some outsider if this woman is a jerk, even a racist jerk? A lot of people seem to be taking an approach to this kind of thing that reminds me more of Carrie Nation than Martin Luther King. There have been so many instances of people's lives being ruined (worse than this) over inappropriate comments. Why be so enthusiastic to put a Scarlet "R" (for racism) on someone like this? Maybe she was just having a bad day.
This kind of "avenging angel" attitude, IMO, has something to do with why Trump is back in the White House, an outcome which I do not support any more than you probably do.
This DOES NOT MEAN that I support this comment. I just think it would have been more appropriate for her to have apologized directly to the waiter. Despite what you and others may think, this is the only person who was directly affected by this. And I know you're going to say that this intense shaming might bring such an apology about. But, respectfully, I feel that the punishment does not fit the crime here.
Do you consider Karen to be a racist slur? Because Stephanie sure as heck was a Karen!
It's definitely cruel to everyone named Karen. And, to the extent that "Karen" is a stereotypically white name, I'd say, yes, it's a racist slur.
Well said. Although it’s far down the list of the horrible things Trump has done, I don’t think it’s discussed enough how much more unpleasant he’s made normal social life. The temperature is turned up so high that ordinary disagreements get turned into a life-changing, relationship-destroying battle between good and evil. Probably everyone knows someone whose family no longer goes to the same house on Thanksgiving as they did before Trump because of some stupid political argument.
Anyways, I had my first date with my fiancee at Cazuela’s! Best thing on the menu there is the carnitas platter, which comes with a stuffed bacon wrapped jalapeño.
I’m not convinced it’s that far down the list, as I think it’s a big part of how he’s enabled the rest of the things he is doing.
I agree, Amy.
I disagree that this is down the list. This kind of hatred and division is at the very core of how the GOP has gained so much power. Turn everyone on everyone else. Pour oil on the fires, create a society of fear and hatred of their neighbors. Make Americans forget what was always our nation's strongest attribute - our diversity. Our melting pot. The welcoming of immigrants to make us stronger. After all, 99%+ of us are either immigrants or defended from immigrants. They have always brought in a drive to do better, improve their lives, and give something back to the nation that gave them that chance. Well, mostly. There are always outliers like Musk.
We are strongest when we help each other. Work together. Which, despite the right claiming to be Christians, is the heart of what Jesus taught! He fed those who needed food, healed strangers. And would be called a flaming communist for it now.
Of course, even that word has lost its true meaning, it really means dictatorship now because of how the USSR, Cuba, and Red China stole the meaning of the term for their totalitarian regimes.
It really is a pretty terrible and important (in terms of his agenda’s success) to my mind. Sowing chaos and ill will rampantly is, it seems, part of the plan. And it’s a hard one to try and remedy because the stakes are so high. Sigh.
That carnitas platter sounds delicious.
"Stephanie is paying (literally) for the consequences of anti-immigrant rhetoric actively encouraged from the highest offices in our country. "
While I'm sorry Stephanie lost her job, maybe it's for the best. Columbus doesn't need racists representing it when showing newcomers homes or other properties. Stephanie reflects poorly on the community, on Columbus as a whole. Not good for business. She needed to learn a lesson in order to show others that racism/bigotry is always wrong and that we need to treat each other with kindness. Learning opportunities are often painful, so let's hope her example teaches others not to follow her behavior.
^^^agreed^^^
Exactly! She doesn’t need to be selling houses to or for the people of the community if this is the way she feels about them.
I think Stephanie should sue trump for causing her actions..he would sue her
He didn’t “make her a racist”, she already was one but he has emboldened that sad sector of society who think those views are ok to be outspoken about them. She showed a frankly obscene disregard for someone based on her own warped views of her own race as somehow superior. Unfortunately the current leader of your country tells people daily by his words and actions that it is ok to hold those views and therefore to publicly humiliate others by them. He isn’t making racists but he is unfortunately unearthing them from their hovels to spout their hatred to the world. I fear for the future of all decent American people who don’t have that venom in their souls.
Spoiler alert: she won't learn anything from that episode, and it will only fuel her hatred and bigotry even more 😢
Putin is a Russian agent, I mean, Trump is a Russian agent. America is under attack. When will Americans realize that?
Well this is certainly... a take. Not one that seems informed by facts or reason, but one you're entitled to all the same.
Man up and support your assertion if you can. In what way is Rump not using American public resources to support Purim’s objectives?
Bro, you sound so unhinged. Why should anyone have to explain themselves to a madman who’s already decided for himself what the truth looks like?
"Seriously, you're a man, judging by your name, so it's expected of you to do your best to be reasonable instead of hysterical"
To me, everything I need to know about the usefulness of engaging with this clown is contained in this sentence he wrote.
No sympathy for bigots. No one held a gun to her head. She wrote that awful note of her own volition and she’s crying crocodile tears. The problem with people like her is that they don’t think they’ll ever suffer consequences which is typical bullying behavior. The guy she picked on got back up, and now she’s backing down. She’s a coward.
Exactly! She's sorry to be facing consequences. I would be very surprised if she has genuinely learned her lessons. Most of these people never do.
Excellent piece, right on point. I wonder how long before stephanie doing the rounds on MAGA media outlets as another aggrieved martyr penalised for speaking her - if you’ll excuse the expression- mind.
“None of this is helped by our current administration. Trump’s bombastic rhetoric sadly deludes his supporters into believing that they belong to an historical shift in popular consciousness, one that authorizes them to act as deputized ambassadors for their leader in everyday situations.” Perfect distillation of the current moment
My husband and son love Cazuela's and go there all the time. They're going to be eating there even more now.
Trump is a desease of the mind. Beyond the physical harm he is doing to our country he has wormed his way into our minds and removed all joy, and destroyed our sense of community.
You are so right. Pre Trump it didn’t really matter to us what your political persuasion was but now, when you meet someone you have to look for hints and clues before engaging. It’s sick.
Stephanie Lovins, a real estate agent in Columbus, was dismissed after writing an offensive message on a restaurant receipt. She tried to deny it and continued to deny it even ater security footage was. Major Karen piece of white trash.
Yeah, but my friend Karen is a great human being!! Sad that is used to describe someone like Stephanie ( and I’m sure the other Stephanie members don’t like it either! )
Yeah, I cringe that my name John is referenced in US street culture as both a purchaser of sex and a toilet bowl. But I don't lose my mind over it. That ship sailed long long ago.
Definitely not like some. Being a little rusty can be fixed.
It’s true, there are several names that have different meanings, mine included 😉!
Yeah, but yours isn't derogatory
Austin, that is a tremendous story and outcome. Guessing Stephanie tried calling her credit card company saying her card was stolen to keep from paying the tab. I bet, if she has any brains at all, she will be moving or already has. The stink will follow her for awhile regardless. Thanks for writing this piece.
FAFO
Karma is a real thing ! I hope Stephanie learns from her hatred and bigotry but I know these trumpers and she hasn’t. She just hates that she was caught
As a Stephanie, I hope she legitimately wants and does change. Stop effing with people and sullying our name!
Just like the security company in Idaho that lost its business license after harassing and removing a doctor from a conference.
Without any legal reason other than harrassment. The sheriff too is now under investigation.
Why do people exchanging money for services or goods feel entitled to be abusive? I have seen this over and over again.
That behaviour is intolerable no matter who it is.